Dreams Can Come True

We all have dreams and desires. Some people want health. Some people want loving relationships and other want fame and fortune. Everyone wants something different but the bottom line is, how do we get it?

Most dreams we have seem unattainable at first glance. Many who struggle with life feel like their current circumstances are the way it will always be. It is very hard to imagine that things will change when you are in the middle of a bad situation.

Hockey

I like to use the game of hockey as a great analogy of life, since I am Canadian, and I love hockey. In hockey, the players are always moving. When you have the puck and you are trying to make a play, sometimes you don't have one available. The other team has all the options covered. This could seem like a no-win situation, and if we approached this the same way many people approach life, we would just give up because we had no options. However, in hockey what we do in this situation is keep skating. As we move, the other pieces of the puzzle move too, creating a new scenario and possibly different options. The key is movement. In hockey they say it is solving your problems with your legs, not your hands.

I life, if we just keep moving, we create opportunities for ourselves. We must ask ourselves, "What can I do?" ..and then do it. By moving forward, by doing what you can to move closer to your goals, you are opening up new opportunities and scenarios. Your are meeting new people and seeing things from a new perspective,. Options that were not there before become available because you moved. Even moving sideways is still changing your perspective.

Don't be a victim

This "movement" approach to life is the opposite of being a victim. We can expect the world to change while we stay in the same place, but that is pointless. If we keep moving, we create opportunities and new situations. We cannot wait for things to change, we must create the change. As Brian Tracy says, no one is coming to the rescue.

Take responsibility for your life

By taking responsibility for everything in your life, you are changing from victim to creator. You are the one pulling the strings and you are the one that is accountable. When you can accept that your life circumstances were created by you and you alone, you are well on your way to becoming free. In order for your life to get better, you must get better. As Jim Rohn says:

Don't wish life were easier, wish you were better.

Or as I quote in many of my articles

God don't drive no parked cars - Dr, Phil

Do not expect fate to take care of you - you are in the drivers seat. If you set out to achieve something, you must assume it is all on you. You must do what needs to be done, and keep going until you succeed. There are many ways that fate or the universe may assist you in your quest, but it will not do it for you.

“Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness. Concerning all acts of initiative and creation, there is one elementary truth the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then providence moves too.” - William Hutchison Murray

Make a plan

To get what you want, you need to clearly define what it is that you want. Make it very real in your mind, write it down. Create a vision board. You cannot hit a target you can't see. Once you know and have defined exactly what you want, make a plan to get it. It is ok if you don't know all of the steps quite yet., Begin and learn as you go. The act of moving towards your goal is enough to bring unexpected assistance to your aid. Your initial plan is a list of things you CAN do, and you must do them. If you don't know what to do next, find out. That is your next task on your to-do list. Find someone who does know, or has done it before. Read a book. Take a course. There is a ton of information out there to help you achieve your goals. You must take ownership of the project and look for answers and resources to get to the finish line. In the spirit of "what CAN I do?" Your next move may be to find out what your next move should be..

Persist

Nobody ever achieves anything without some obstacles. There is always something that comes up that impedes your progress or sets you back. This is normal. If you let obstacles stop you from moving forward, you will never achieve anything. Unexpected challenges always come up . Expect them and prepare for them if you can. But keep going. Figure it out and move on. You only lose when you quit.

Learn

They say that the only reason someone else is doing better than you is because they know something you don't. It is all about knowledge. You must be a life-long learner if you are going to be successful. You must continuously be adapting to changing circumstances and finding out new ways to do things. The world is changing fast, you must change too. Change is scary for many people, but high-achievers are willing to go through the uncomfortableness of change and become more. You must be willing to wander outside of your comfort zone and adapt.

Adapt

Darwin is often misquoted as saying life is about the survival of the fittest. This is incorrect. He actually said it is about survival of the most adaptable. This has never been more true than today. As our world changes and evolves at top speed, those who can change and adapt along with it are the ones who will survive. This means staying focused on your goals, but adapting your methods or approach as need be. You must be more concerned with where you are going than with how you are going to get there. You never know if your current strategy will become obsolete or ineffective as things change. You need to be willing to change your approach.

Grow

The most important thing here is to grow. You need to become the person you want to be  in order to get things you want. As Jim Rohn said:

If someone gives you a million dollars, you better hurry up and become a millionaire.

This means you must be the person that you need to be. This Implies that your daily habits and actions are a reflection of who you are, and who you are will determine where you end up. You have complete control over who you become, so you might as well direct that evolution in the right direction. Learn, grow, and adapt. You are capable of so much more than you think.

So the key to getting what you want is to decide what it is that you want and then work towards it. Make a plan and follow through. Persist and overcome obstacle. Stay focused on the end goal and don't fall in love with the process. You can do it. I encourage you to learn as much as you can in your pursuit of happiness. Read books. Take courses. Talk to people more successful than you. Take responsibly. Do not expect the world to magically gift you what you want because you think you are a nice person. You must act upon the world and provide value. You must be willing to pay the price for your success. Only then, will you evoke serendipity.